Category Archives: Self-Knowledge

Finding Your Passion

Skills: Self-Knowledge

from Contributor: Sadie Carlson

At Tapestry, a residential treatment center for women with eating disorders in Brevard, NC, one of our most important groups is Passion Group. This group is about remembering what you value, what you give yourself credit for, and how you know yourself.  Women can participate in the societal norm that reduces our sense of self to appearance and weight. However, internal conflict occurs because we know we are more than that. We know we are curious, wise and skilled. Passion Group asks women to share what they are interested in, to make something and describe how it fulfills you, to feel and make and tell about what inspires you.  Each week something new is shared, an issue that fascinates and why, a poem written, a painting done, a song. We can give ourselves credit for doing something, learning or trying something new,  practicing a skill.  We have to! This is really how your self esteem increases, how your values are recognized, by practicing your passions and sharing them.

Collaborate not Compete!

What are the passions that give you a clearer sense of who you are? How does exploring your passions help you deepen your Self-Knowledge and reclaim your beauty?

Note from Heidi: We will feature expressive arts from Sadie’s Passion Group throughout this blog under the Category: Passion. Be inspired!

About the Contributor:

Sadie Carlson,  MA, MFT, is the Clinical Director of Tapestry. Sadie brings over 10 years of experience providing counseling, encouragement and leadership to children and adults in various organizations including mental health agencies, community based organizations, and corporations. She received her Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute. In particular the psychology of Eating Disorders, Trauma and True Self Identification are areas of focus she brings to working with women.  She believes the healing and true identification of women is connected to: how women treat their bodies, mindful living, social equality, relationship to loved ones and play in nature; and she incorporates these factors into counseling.

 Image: Collaborative Art created as a part of Passion Group, January 2012

Reclaiming Beauty Queen

Beauty Found Collage Card (2011)

Last week we finished up the Fall 2011 Reclaiming Beauty Playshop with a ritual designed to share our Beauty Found stories and commit to self-compassion (being our own Inner Mother). It felt good to come around full circle from our explorations of Original Beauty and Beauty Lost. In honor of Kore’s (and our own) transformation to Persephone, Queen of the Underworld, we ate pomegranate seeds and celebrated the gifts of the Underworld.

I loved engaging in the process with this group. My Beauty Found card incorporated an image of the Queen of Wands from the Thoth Tarot deck. The Queen of Wands represents mastery of Self-Knowledge. Here is what Angeles Arrien says about this symbol in The Tarot Handbook:

The Queen of Wands is the knower of the Self. This symbol represents self-mastery and the process of self-reclamation. Her process of transformation and self-actualization can best be described by the story she represents of a woman who, before she knew who she was, had black hair and walked with a panther by her side. As she began to discover more of who she was, her hair turned brown and the panther changed to a leopard. When she fully realized who she was and began to manifest who she was in the world with her pine cone wand, her hair turned fiery red. At this stage of self-knowledge, she pinched the growth marks of the leopard to prevent it from transforming into a beautiful lion that would have matched her self-knowledge because she wanted a reminder of the dark places from whence she had come (the spots of the leopard). This myth represents the process of self-discovery and the splendor of awakening to the deepest essence of who we are (the radiant crown).

I firmly believe that my time in the Underworld led me to the person I am today. I love how this card honors the dark places we have been in our lives as the fuel for awakening to our essence – a process that for me represents reclaiming connection with our beauty. Included in my image are the words “beautiful strength” to represent the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual strength that is a part of my beauty. I also included a reminder to “be satisfied.” From my study of the Enneagram and learning about my Enneatype, Type 4, the Individualist, I have been able to cultivate mindfulness of the habit of my mind of looking for what is missing. This focus of attention ultimately leads me to dissatisfaction and depression. Through a practice of shifting the focus to the blessings of what is in front of me everyday (without abandoning skills in getting my needs met), I have been able to challenge the perceived emptiness of dissatisfaction. Yay! for self-knowledge to help emancipate (myself) from mental slavery  and celebrate the beauty surrounding me in my life.

I also included the Om symbol to represent the role of my yoga practice in my healing journey.

A shout out to other factors that continue to lead me to Beauty Found:

my husband, son, sisters, parents, friends who mirror my true Self qualities back to me every day ~ making meaning out of my struggles by being a light for others ~ forgiveness of myself and others ~ music ~ the beauty of nature ~ creativity ~ moving towards better health everyday ~ love

What are the “spots of the leopard” in your life that have led you to deeper Self-Knowledge? What/who do you want to honor that has helped lead you on a journey of reclaiming a sense of your own beauty? Create your own Beauty Found collage card and share it with us!

I hope that you will consider joining a Reclaiming Beauty Playshop in the future. The next one will most likely start in February 2012. Stay connected through this blog, on facebook, or through subscribing to the newsletter to keep updated of the latest offerings.

I honor the beauty in you from the beauty in me,

~ Heidi

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“Let there be no scales to weigh your unknown treasure”

Check out the new skill added: Self-Knowledge!

On Self-Knowledge

by: Kahlil Gibran

Your hearts know in silence the secrets of the days and the nights.
But your ears thirst for the sound of your heart’s knowledge.
You would know in words that which you have always known in thought.
You would touch with your fingers the naked body of your dreams.

And it is well you should.
The hidden well-spring of your soul must needs rise and run murmuring to the sea;
And the treasure of your infinite depths would be revealed to your eyes.
But let there be no scales to weigh your unknown treasure;
And seek not the depths of your knowledge with staff or sounding line.
For self is a sea boundless and measureless.

Say not, “I have found the truth,” but rather, “I have found a truth.”
Say not, “I have found the path of the soul.” Say rather, “I have met the soul walking upon my path.”
For the soul walks upon all paths.
The soul walks not upon a line, neither does it grow like a reed.
The soul unfolds itself like a lotus of countless petals.