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You Are Like the Stars

Happy Winter Solstice from Reclaiming Beauty!

Wednesday, December 21st is Winter Solstice – the longest night of the year and a time to celebrate the rebirth of the Sun. In this time of darkness, let’s celebrate the rebirth of our inner beauty light!

In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.~ Albert Schweitzer

On New Year’s Eve of the millennium, I sat locked out of my parent’s house in Ft. Collins, CO and reflected on the beauty of the people in my life at that time. I had an experience that year where I saw the blazing inner beauty light of some of the women around me as filtered by the night sky, and imagined ripping away the sky to expose their brilliance. I felt inspired to let my inner beauty light shine as brilliantly. I wrote this song, You Are Like the Stars, in my parent’s driveway, looking up at the starry New Year’s Eve sky that night.

Share this post with anyone you want to remind of their inner beauty light or thank for rekindling yours.

You Are Like the Stars

I am lying on my back and looking up at you

I marvel at the sparkle you manage to shine through

Even when the darkness, it threatens, it threatens to unfold

You remain, you’re shining proud

You are brilliant, you are bold

To me, you are like the stars

I am wishing, I am wishing on you

I am wishing, I am wishing for a little of what you do

Dark sky, nothing but a holey blanket

That filters your light

If I were to rip it away

I’d be blinded, blinded by the sight

To me, you are like the stars


Hot Tip Tuesday: Amy Steinberg Comes to Asheville this Weekend!

Amy Steinberg: Reclaiming Beauty Queen

I would never be the same after the first time I saw Amy Steinberg perform at the Grey Eagle in 2008. I loved her music and lyrics and presence and her unapologetic authenticity as she shared her beauty with us. I felt comforted to hear my own  spirituality put into words. I smiled with the knowing of being in the presence of a Reclaiming Beauty Queen. This description from her biography captures the experience brilliantly:

Amy Steinberg is a song-slinging, mood-shifting, wild-woman with the power to lift you up and soothe your spirit. Listening to a Steinberg cd or going to a live show is like popping a potent happy pill, or like experiencing a two-week long soul-healing retreat, or like pure, divine, transformational magic. However you are feeling before you press play or walk in, you are bound to feel even better after experiencing Amy’s presence and listening to her words of whimsy and wisdom.

Check out this song,  Beautiful in Me, which could be a Reclaiming Beauty theme song. She says, “This song is about falling in love with yourself and then saying ‘No!’ to those voices that tell you that you’re less than a magical, perfect, miracle that you are.”


I’m a Queen. I’m a Goddess. I’m a Genius. I’m a Love Light in this world.

Her song ‘Exactly’ became an unofficial theme song at Tapestry for a while, encouraging connection to true Self and belief in making meaning out of your journey – no matter where it is taking you.


i am exactly where i need to be – i need to be exactly where I am – i am divinely timed and shining brightly – yes i believe there is a purpose just for me – yes I believe that we are light – and we shine infinitely

She will be performing in Asheville this Friday, December 16th – 8pm at the Firestorm Cafe. Hope to see some of you Beauties out at the show! If you’re not local, check out her website for more music and Reclaiming Beauty inspiration.

Peace, Love, Free,

~ Heidi

Hot Tip Tuesday: Beauty Comes from Love

The Law of Attraction and Beauty: Excerpt from The Power by Rhonda Byrne

“As love grows in you, your beauty grows too. For love is the beauty of the soul.”

~ Saint Augustine of Hippo (354-430), Theologian and Bishop

All beauty comes from the force of love. Unlimited beauty is available to you from love, but the problem is that most people find fault and criticize their body more than they appreciate it. Looking at your faults and being unhappy about anything about your body does not bring beauty to you! All it brings is more faults and more unhappiness.

The beauty business is enormous, yet unlimited beauty is being poured down to you in every second. But you have to give love to receive it! The happier you are, the more beautiful you will be. Lines will fade, skin will tighten and begin to glow, hair will become thicker and stronger, eyes will begin to sparkle, and their color will intensify. And more than anything else you will see the proof that all beauty comes from love when people are drawn to you wherever you go.

Image: Katie Daisy

Hot Tip Tuesday: Be Thankful

Hot Tip Tuesday: Thanksgiving Edition!

I am madly in love with this website, I am thankful: Change your life with an Attitude of Gratitude, created by Asheville artist Damaris Pierce. Hot Tip for today: Spend some time on this website. Make a Thanksgiving commitment to yourself to try out a Gratitude Journal. Try it for a week. Try it for a month. Shifting attention to what is working versus what is not working on your Reclaiming Beauty journey can change everything.

In my family, we say our thankfuls together every night. My 2 year old knows the routine; after we read Where the Wild Things Are and before we turn the lights off to go to sleep he will spontaneously say to my husband and me: “Wha’chur thankful for?”

So from Joey to me to you,

“Wha’chur thankful for?”

Image: Artist Meg Winnecour

Hot Tip Tuesday: Pay Attention to the Signs

Hot Tip for today: Pay Attention to the Signs

Whatever it is you are currently working with on your Reclaiming Beauty journey, pay attention to the signs and guidance provided to you by Spirit, the Divine, the Universe. Seemingly random coincidences may have deeper meaning pointing you in the direction of your next steps.

This Hot Tip comes straight from my own current experience since transitioning into a Hanged Man year. I have been receiving lots of nudges from the Universe about how to break and release stuck patterns in order to claim my Power and I am so glad I am PAYING ATTENTION.

For example, when I was unable to complete training for a 1/2 marathon this Fall, I noticed I was feeling drawn back out into the world to practice yoga in community. However, to my great surprise, my body was longing for the hot torture chamber of Bikram Yoga rather than returning to my familiar styles of Anusara and Flow. Within a week I had a massage with a woman who loves to spread the good news of her Bikram yoga practice, then ran into a friend at the Oakley gas station who was headed over to the Bikram studio. I took these as divine messages, stepped back into the Hot Room and have been so glad I did. The Bikram style of yoga is complementary to the current work of my Reclaiming Beauty journey. Doing the practice in a room heated to 105 degrees has been great for detoxing physically, mentally and emotionally as well as helping me to cultivate greater discipline, power and determination.

The Universe has been providing continued nudges on exploring Power as well. For example, a fellow mama recommended a great parenting book, Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline: The 7 Basic Skills for Turning Conflict Into Cooperation by Becky A. Bailey. The main point of this book is that as parents we must learn to discipline ourselves before we can discipline our children. The author suggests Seven Powers for Self-Control. Her ideas about the connection between discipline and power are really speaking to me and I am sure I will be blogging more about them in the future. Also, when sharing some of my current challenges with my dear friend and tarot mentor, Amy McKissick Reamy, she recommended a book, The Power, by Rhonda Byrne. I accepted the nudge, bought the audiobook, and have begun to listen with open ears.

And then yesterday on my Google Reader came this post about this very same subject, Divine Synchronicity, from Gabrielle Bernstein, author of the book Spirit Junkie: A Radical Road to Self-Love and Miracles. (I haven’t read this book, but I like the title! Anyone out there read it or recommend it?)

I’m paying attention to the signs.

For further reading on this subject, I recommend Mary Swanson’s post Grace Under Pressure: Reading the Signs from my favorite blog, Build Altars. And if you want more, I also recommend the first book I ever read that introduced me to this juicy subject, The Celestine Prophecy, by James Redfield. (I can still picture myself devouring this book on a plane from Colorado to North Carolina the first time I read it in 1995.)

What kind of signs is the Universe currently offering you on your Reclaiming Beauty journey?

Please comment, I would love to hear your stories.

Image: Design Crush

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Hot Tip Tuesday: Self-Blessing

Saint Francis and the Sow
by: Galway Kinnell
The bud
stands for all things,
even for those things that don’t flower,
for everything flowers, from within, of self-blessing;
though sometimes it is necessary
to reteach a thing its loveliness,
to put a hand on its brow
of the flower
and retell it in words and in touch
it is lovely
until it flowers again from within, of self-blessing;
as Saint Francis
put his hand on the creased forehead
of the sow, and told her in words and in touch
blessings of earth on the sow, and the sow
began remembering all down her thick length,
from the earthen snout all the way
through the fodder and slops to the spiritual curl of the tail,
from the hard spininess spiked out from the spine
down through the great broken heart
to the sheer blue milken dreaminess spurting and shuddering
from the fourteen teats into the fourteen mouths sucking and blowing beneath them:
the long, perfect loveliness of sow.
Image: Bell Pine Art Farm

Hot Tip Tuesday: Halloween Edition

I love Halloween! What a fun opportunity to celebrate and explore a lesser expressed aspect of your beauty. I am always inspired by astrologer Rob Brezny’s horoscope this time of year which end in costume suggestions. Check it out here: Rob Brezny’s Freewill Astrology Halloween Costume Suggestions.

Although he recommends an eager student, a white-coated lab researcher and Curious George for a Virgo like me this year,  I am going to try to put together a Pink Ladies costume if I can come up with the signature jacket… I think the Pink Ladies would LIKE Reclaiming Beauty. And I LOVE how they strut their stuff.

What will your costume be this year and how will it explore a lesser known aspect of your beauty?

Hot Tip Tuesday: Come Together

I can’t think of a better Hot Tip then coming together in community and raising awareness for a common purpose to make some change in this world. There are two opportunities across North Carolina this weekend to come together with other people who are passionate about spreading a message similar to Reclaiming Beauty: Friday night in Wilmington for an Operation Beautiful for Project HEAL benefit and Saturday morning in Charlotte for the NEDA walk. Below is some more information about each event. Have some fun and Come Together!


Operation Beautiful for Project HEAL

“Life is short. Eat dessert first!”

The Soapbox LaundroLounge

255 N. Front Street

Wilmington, NC 28401

October 21st, 2011


MUSIC: Selah Dubb, Sai Collins, IJ Quinn, & Heather Purdin

DANCE: Blue Fire Belly Dance, Surfers Tango, Fuzz of Fuzz <3 Hoops

ART: Live painting by Chris Mickey

DESSERT BAR:  Apple Annie’s cookies, Cotton Candy, Pure Bars, & fruit and pastries from Fresh Market donated by Carolina House.

All ages / Family friendly.

Under 16 must be accompanied by parent/guardian.

TICKETS: $8 Adv / $10 Door – Free dessert first come, first serve!




Saturday October 22nd ~ Freedom Park, Charlotte, NC

Registration opens at 8:00am; Walk will kick-off at 9

Register Here

Project HEAL team Blog

The NEDA Charlotte Walk team will be raising money to help the National Eating Disorder Association while also raising awareness about Project HEAL. Make sure to wear a Project HEAL bracelet or Tshirt to support your team! Project HEAL – Carolina Chapter
For more information about the Project HEAL: NEDA Charlotte Walk team, contact Kimberly Mason at:


Project HEAL
Project Heal (Help to Eat, Accept, & Live) is a 501(c)(3) not-for-profit organization, started by three teenage girls who met in treatment for their eating disorders. To date, the organization has raised over $130,000 through fundraisers, grants, private donations, and merchandise sales.
The Carolina Chapter of Project H.E.A.L. upholds the two-fold mission of Project HEAL: (a) to raise treatment scholarship funds for those unable to afford medically necessary treatment for an eating disorder and (b) to reduce society’s obsession with body image. For more information about Project HEAL’s Carolina Chapter please visit the Facebook Page:
http://www.facebook/ProjectHealCarolina or, contact Heather Purdin at:

Image: YunGraph on deviantART

Hot Tip Tuesday: Mermaid or Whale?

The following body image parable from Delphine Fieberg has gone viral on facebook:

A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was “This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?”

The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:

“Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.  They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia. They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.

Mermaids do not exist.

But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?

They would have no sex life and could not bear children.

Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.

And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I’d rather be a whale.

At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.

We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn’t enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.

We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.

Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: “How amazing am I ?!”

What are your thoughts?

Image: plus size model Tara Lynn

Hot Tip Tuesday: October 19th is Love Your Body Day

Wednesday, October 19th is the National Organization for Women Foundation’s Love Your Body Day.

Here is a link to their website for lots and lots of ideas about how to get involved.

Love Your Body: What You Can Do.

What actions do you commit to in honor of Love Your Body Day? Please comment/share.

Image: Kyla Hollis, Love Your Body: 2011 Poster Contest Winner